Wednesday, November 27, 2013

There is Always Enough


I used to think that ENOUGH implied JUST enough, you know, just barely enough -- not abundance. When my wife, Lynnie first said, "My life is enough!" I thought that meant, just this side of NOT enough!  She taught me, without even trying to, that true abundance comes when one holds to the truth that there is always enough. Enough time, enough stuff, enough of everything, enough to share with others, enough to be happy.

I still find myself drawn to calling it more than enough, probably because the word enough, by itself, still feels a bit thin. Perhaps, that has old roots in my childhood. Memories of my depression-era parents (bless their hearts) saying "That's enough! Sylvia" when I went for that second scoop of mashed potatoes; or "that's ENOUGH you two!" when my brother and I were squabbling in the back seat of the car. But more and more I am getting what Lynnie means by enough.

So much of what we are conditioned to believe and work toward—from our childhoods, our culture, the media, even our churches-- is the two extremes of less is more and more is better: less weight, less stress, less calories, less pride, and more time, more money, more prayer, more enlightenment. Certainly, there is truth to these two axioms, but when they translate to living from scarcity, deprivation, sacrifice OR hoarding, grasping, always seeking more, circulation is thrown off, and the flow either dries up or washes out.

Living from a place of ENOUGH doesn't mean doing nothing more, never seeking, growing, giving, expanding. What comes to mind is the message of the Tao te Ching—"You need do nothing!" The operative word here, I believe, is NEED. Lao Tzu wasn't saying that we do nothing, but rather we NEED do nothing. Needing to do or not do, a particular thing, in order to be more or less anything, implies attachment to its outcome, means the focus is on the DOING rather on the BEING… Holding to the truth that there is always enough allows me to rest, to embrace my life with gratitude…

Neale Donald Walsch, in Conversations with God, talks about the importance of offering prayers of gratitude --affirming enough-- rather than supplication, which affirms lack. Sounds like a good idea to me. 
May our Thanksgiving prayer of gratitude, become our go-to prayer throughout the year.
OK I realize I got a bit off point… This IS kind of how my internal conversations go.

What does enough mean to you?
What happens when your mind meanders?

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Where Humility and Confidence Meet

When I was a teenager, there was a family in our church who was beautiful and talented. The parents, along with their three precious daughters, had a singing ministry they shared with the local churches. The father in particular was very proud of his children and spoke freely about how blessed he and his family was.

What I recall is the church folk criticizing them for being TOO confident, so "full of themselves", arrogant and boastful. I can remember saying to one of these observers, "maybe he is just telling the truth". This did not go over well with the older, wiser members and I clearly got the message: It is dangerous to feel good about yourself.

Why is it that humility seems to be so much more valued than self-assurance within the spiritual warrior? This is not to say that confidence should replace humility, but I do believe that both are essential. It is maintaining a balance that is challenging, I think.

Perhaps Grace is where humility and confidence meet.

Do you ever feel reticent to express your talent, your abundance, your happiness?
What do you think the balance of humility and confidence looks like?

Friday, November 8, 2013

Life is NOT Suffering!

Life is LIFE.

It is

What I make of it!

Indeed, 

the human experience includes:

suffering and pain and heartache and loss.

As well as: Love and joy and inspiration--

Illumination and intense beauty!

It is ALL part of the experience.

And though I may have little control

 over what comes my way,

It is MY choice where I put my attention--

what I affirm, everyday!

 And -- if it IS all illusionary…?

 I would rather live from a place informed by

 The illusion of illumination

than the delusion of despair.